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If a child tells you they’ve been sexually abused

This post discusses childhood sexual abuse. Please take care of yourself. This legal tip has been adapted from the Montana Child Sexual Assault Response Team’s “Child Sexual Assault FAQ.”

If a child tells you that they have been sexually abused, here are some guidelines of what to do:

  • Stay calm and keep your voice normal. Try not to show anger, fear, or any other strong emotions. 
  • Tell the child that you believe them and that you’re glad they told you.
  • Listen carefully, but don’t ask a lot of questions about what happened. It’s normal for a child to only tell part of what happened at first.
  • Write down exactly what the child told you as soon as you’re able to. Don’t write in front of the child.
  • Tell the child you will find someone who can help.
  • Call the Montana Child Abuse and Neglect Hotline at 1-866-820-5437 as soon as possible. Report exactly what the child told you. The hotline is free and open 24/7.
  • Call your local police department or sheriff’s department to report what the child told you.

Some people are mandated reporters. This means they are legally required to call the child abuse hotline if they suspect a child has been abused. Mandated reporters are usually people who have jobs taking care of children in some way. The Montana Code 41-3-201 explains which people are required to report child abuse. 

Finally, remember that child sexual abuse is never the child’s fault.

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